16 December 2010

RE: BABIES!!!

That's so funny, because it totally sounds like me.  "No thank you."  Haha.  I can actually just totally picture that.

Your friend Belle sounds a lot like a friend of mine who has three little girls.  She had her first in the hospital with drugs, and I know that still bothers her so much.  She had her third up here in Alaska, naturally, and that baby is one of the sweetest babies I've ever seen.

I think the main factor for a lot of women is fear.  I mean, they're told one thing all their lives; they're made to believe that doctors can always help you.  Also, so many people really do seem to believe that ignorance is bliss.  It's sad, but I understand that they're afraid.  Sort of like I was afraid not to go back to college right away.  I mean, I'd been told my whole life that if I didn't go to college, my life would be worthless and entirely devoid of happiness.  It's hard to break away from that.

That said, I think it is very silly not to try to be as informed as possible, not just about childbirth, but about anything that is relevant to your life.

Childbirth and child psychology have always been interesting to me.  All through high school, I worked in a daycare, so I got to be around children and watch them grow up.  (Not to mention the fact that I am the oldest of four children, so I ended up being a second mom to some of them.)  I love watching children develop; it's amazing how smart they really are.  Plus, kids still just have all this hope and faith that so many people lose as adults.  It's wonderful because when I'm around them, it sort of 'recharges' those batteries for me, I think, and I find myself looking at the world with more hope and faith.

Gosh, I wish I could come down there and see all of those babies!  I heard about Anna's birth on facebook and have gotten to see some photos, at least.  Facebook is great, as far as that goes; it's nice to at least feel a little bit in touch with family, even if I'm really not, because I live in the most isolated place in the world.  At least it's beautiful here.  Right now, I'm walking around feeling like I'm in a scene from the Nutcracker, or maybe Narnia, or something.  Just gorgeous.  I'll have to figure out a way to show you more of where I live.  Like, maybe by showing you photos or something?  I don't know.


Oh, look!  There's one, now.  It was taken from the cabin I stay in for part of the summer while I work as a counselor at a camp.  Of course, that doesn't really capture the wintery beauty I'm talking about right now...  But this is the photo I just happened to have sitting on my computer, so there you go!

I meant to actually talk more about childbirth in this post, but I daresay I got a bit off topic.  So... perhaps next time.  Also, when I am on my other computer at home, I'll post more of that fairytale/fantasy/novella/whatever-you-want-to-call-it.  It isn't on my laptop, which is silly, because it if were, I would probably have finished it much faster.  Oh, well.  I suppose I'm learning for next year...

BABIES!!!

Lately, it seems like babies are everywhere! I think everyone planned it this way; sneaky! Did you hear that Crystal had her baby? Her names Anna and I got to hold her at the Christmas party up at Uncle Mark and Aunt Rosann's house. She had her right before the party, so she was less than a week old! That's the smallest baby I've ever held!

And along with Crystal's baby, Mandy has Shayla, and my friend Belle has her daughter, Loy....so I'm being overwhelmed with this multitude of babies! It's got me back on my natural birth kick. I stopped reading about it around the end of senior year. I was still really into it, I just wasn't in the right mood to read about it for some odd reason. But yesterday I found the copy of The Birth Partner that I borrowed from Belle and read almost 80 pages in about an hour. The entire subject, from babies to birthing them, is just so interesting! I don't know how people can stand not learning about at least a little of it.

It makes me laugh at how defensive I get when someone starts talking about how 'hospitals are so great' or how 'I'm going to get all drugged up for this baby'! I try not to say anything, but sometimes I can't help throwing out a few facts on why it would be better to do it at home and with minimal interventions.....:)

It's really sad for me to hear how misinformed people are. I'm not going to lie....it kinda makes me want to shank some movie directors and newscasters....SHHH!!! And then it makes me even sadder when I tell someone about natural birth, they listen, and then they don't do anything to follow up on the subject and continue being misinformed! I mean really? If someone just told you that there was a whole other way of giving birth that could be better for your baby and that's been around for centuries, no, millinia, wouldn't you at least want to check it out?! And how selfish can you really be? If people were told of the side effects of some of the 'miracle' drugs they use, I'd bet money that at least a few more people would say they wanted to at least try it without them. The difference between babies that I've known who were born naturally vs. babies I've known who were born with their moms (and themselves through the mom) being drugged absolutely astounds me! And the difference between a breastfed baby vs. a formula fed baby is just as amazing.

I guess what I'm heading towards is that birth is a HUGE deal and I just don't see how an almost mother would be able to live with herself if she didn't look at all her options and decide which was the best suited to her. I think that's one of the reasons I admire Belle so much. She had her first son in a hospital with an epidural. But a few years after she had him, she started to get interested in natural childbirth. She has had two babies since, one was born in my basement (awesome, yes?) and the other she had in her new house. No drugs. No hospital. She was able to admit to herself that she may not have done exactly the right thing with her first son, accepted the fact that she simply didn't know back then, moved on, and was more informed with her next two pregnancies and had them in a safer way. I think that most mom's just don't want to admit or acknowledge that they may have made some mistakes with their children's births, so they go on in the same fashion as before, whereas if she could just admit to herself that it could have gone better for the both of them if she was more knowledgeable, she could easily avoid the same mistakes with her future children.

Okay! I really need to stop! This has turned into quite the little rant....sorry about that....^_^ I just get so into it I can't stop writing! Be prepared! There may well be more of these on the way.....hee hee! OH!!! And by the way, did I ever send you a copy of my senior paper? It seems like I did, but I wasn't sure.

Can you believe that I wasn't actually going to write about any of that? Well....except the first part, but still. What I was actually going to tell you was that Aunt Linda let my mom and I borrow some old videos of when we were just little! One of them is just me when I was about three months old. Just doing cute baby Lacey things. The other one was of my first birthday party. It had me, you and Alissa. It must be said: We were the cutest babies ever! It even had us running around nakey after we had a bath! When your mom tried to get you dressed you were trying to escape and saying 'no thank you no thank you no thank you' over and over as I was attempting to go outside with my trike and my bare butt! I made it for about two seconds and then my mom grabbed me! Way to spoil the fun. ^_^ I miss being little and romping around with all my cousins. That was the bestest!


01 December 2010

Speaking of Dragons...

...which we often do around here, for Christmas this year, I am writing several of my friends their own little fairy tales (I use the term 'fairy tale' very loosely, mind you).  This one, written for one of my very dear friends, involves a dragon.  But, *ahem* I haven't really finished it yet.  At all.  At first, it was going to be short, but then the story kept growing and I started writing it in first person, which always seems to make things longer (when I write them, anyway).

Anyway, here is the first little chunk of the story.  If you like it, I'll post more, but no pressure.

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            I knelt in the dirt, running my hands through the loam of the field; the ground was still rough and wrinkled from the harvest.  The soil felt good as it slipped through my grip, falling into my lap.  I closed my eyes, smelling the damp earth.  Moisture from the ground soaked slowly and deliciously into the woven fabric of my skirt.  There was nowhere I felt more at home than in these fields.
            “Amber,” Ma called, ripping through the stillness of the moment.  My eyes snapped open, and I jumped up, shaking the lush dirt from my dress and apron.  I ran back to our homestead where Ma waited by the back door.  She held a carved, wooden ladle in her right hand and her left hand rested on her hip.
            “Mind you stomp the dirt off those boots before you come inside,” she said, crossing the kitchen to stir some soup, bubbling aromatically in the enormous soup pot hanging over the fire.
            I hung my dirty apron on a peg by the door, replacing it with a frilly, crisp white apron that Ma deemed ‘suitable for young ladies.’  Ma glanced over her shoulder.
            “You look a fright,” she said disapprovingly.  I smiled, hoping I looked apologetic and becoming.  “You had better go and clean up.  Pa and Rossin are preparing to leave with the men for the hunt tomorrow, and I need you to pick up some things in the village.”
              I went upstairs, glancing at myself in a mirror.  There was a smudge of dirt on my chin and my waist-length hair was tangled.  I had a narrow face with a pointed chin and a small mouth.  Pa had always told me that I’m the most beautiful girl in the village, but I knew that the only interesting things about me were my eyes.  They were dark, luminous green; everyone said they were the color of pine needles.  My brother, Rossin, had eyes of exactly the same color, and was much more handsome than I was lovely.
After I scrubbed my hands, wiped the dirt from my chin, and carefully plaited my newly detangled hair, Ma sent me into the village to gather supplies, but not until spending a copious amount of time despairing over the dirt that I could never quite get out from under my fingernails.
            I passed a crumbling building.  Crops of all kinds were piled in front of it, a beautiful collage.  In our village, people have always placed crops from their harvest in front of the ruins of the ancient building.  It is the only remnant of the people who inhabited the village before we came.  Inside the building there was a book, telling how the people starved during a great famine, and left the safety of the meadow to enter the woods, never returning.  I supposed it was our way of honoring them.  I suspected it was also a visual representation of all of our prayers – please, Lord, never let us starve like that.
            My first stop was the apothecary shop, where I picked up a parcel wrapped in brown paper.  Pa had already paid for the bundle, but had not had the time to wait for them to assemble the various salves and tinctures himself.  I could easily have spend hours gazing at the various bottles and jars displayed in the small shop – they were filled with fascinating ingredients and served so many strange uses.  I enjoyed the floral, earthy aroma of the shop as well.
At the tanner’s shop, I picked up freshly made leather.  Ma would carefully fashion the length of leather into large satchels, in the hope that they would soon be filled with enough meat to feed our family through the coming winter.
On my way home, I passed the Goat’s Tail, a shabby saloon housing the most colorful characters that my village has to offer.  Sitting in front of the saloon was One-Eye Steve, smoking a corn-cob pipe, one of his eyes covered by a dirty, worn patch of leather, his remaining eye fixed on something that none of the rest of us could see.
            “Ah, Little-Lady-Green-Eyes,” he called as I passed in front of him.  “Chilly weather we’re having, don’t yeh think?  But it’s going t’get colder – mark my words!  Ol’ Steve’s been aroun’ a long time, Lil’ Lady.”  His deep voice boomed in an authoritative way I had never heard before.  I nodded in his direction, but kept walking.  One-Eye Steve had always seemed harmless enough to me, but Pa had always warned me to keep my distance from him.
            “Queer sort of fella’,” Pa would say, tapping his left shoulder to ward off evil spirits.  “Always talkin’ big and tellin’ stories.  Keep your distance, Amber.”  I wasn’t superstitious, but I didn’t much fancy the idea of having an extended conversation with One-Eye Steve.  I found his timeless, glassy eye unnerving, and he spoke with a lilting accent that nobody else in our village possessed.  Nobody could remember where he came from or what he did for a living, either.  He was as permanent and dilapidated as the ruined building where we left our crop offerings.
            By the time I caught sight of our homestead again, I’d had plenty of time to ponder One-Eye Steve’s warning.  My fingers were numb; I hadn’t thought of dressing for more warmth when I had left the house.  The cold was coming much earlier than usual this year.  Ma tutted and fussed as soon as I walked through the door, quickly giving me a cup full of scalding soup to wrap my hands around.
            Ma sent me to bed early that night, and I was still too chilled and too full of One-Eye Steve’s warning to argue.
***

So, as you can see, it has kind of western feel to it, which was my intention for this particular friend.  I'm trying to kind of customize each one to suit the person who will be receiving it.  This is all sort of the set-up for the rest of the story.  Originally, I intended this story to be around 3500-6000 words, but I think it's probably going to end up somewhere in the 7500-13000 words category.

If all of the fairy tales go this way, then there is NO possible way that I'm getting this done before Christmas.  Gah.  (Gah?  Yeah, I'm reeeeally eloquent.)

I'm open for critque/questions/whatever you have to say on it.  Also, if you noticed any glaring grammatical mistakes or misspellings, plllleeease let me know.  Chances are these things are not going to be particularly well-edited.

Back to work!

Happy December,
Kiwi